A few years ago, I was in the middle of a series of intense, very public, very painful debates with a vegan friend, and I was very close to a breakdown.
I didn’t have the courage to even talk to her, much less share a few of my feelings.
I wanted to be clear that I didn “love” vegans, that I had no intention of ever being one.
But I didn: My vegan friends were just like everyone else.
I was the most “normal” of them, a pretty normal person with no real problems, and no reason to believe I’d ever have one.
And yet somehow, I had been raised in a vegan household, and it made me feel ashamed and vulnerable.
It made me want to throw up.
I have been in a relationship with a woman for seven years, but we haven’t had sex for four years, despite my best efforts.
We both have kids, but despite our child-free status, we are still in a long-term relationship.
(I still think we’re in love, but it’s been so long since we’ve been together that we don’t know how to talk about it.)
It’s hard for me to even consider getting pregnant with my daughter, because I know I’m going to be very protective of her, even though I know she’s not mine.
I know that I’ll be able to handle it on my own.
But the fear that it would be a huge mistake for me and my partner to be pregnant is still a constant in my head.
I’ve also been having to face the question of whether I want to go vegan.
I used to be a big believer in veganism, but I now believe it’s something that needs to be done.
I’ve found a way to make it work, but there are still times when I just want to stay away, because of the pressure I feel to be in a “normal life” with a partner and children.
And I’m not sure I have any way to tell myself that I am “normal.”
My vegan identity, which has always been a combination of my veganism and my religion, is still the main thing that has kept me sane and happy in my life.
I don’t want to be the person that my partner says, “Oh, we’re going to go vegetarian for a few years, so you’re not really vegan anymore,” because that’s what I would want.
I want her to know that she is a part of my family and my life, and that I love her and that she deserves to be happy.
And that is how I want things to be.
Vivian Siegel, who grew up a vegan, is the author of The Vegan Solution: How a Life Without Meat Can Be a Life of Hope, Happiness, and Community.